Toke Makinwa reflects on singlehood success and personal growth at 40 with a renewed perspective on life.
Lagos, Nigeria, EPICSTORIAN — Toke Makinwa, a well-known Nigerian media personality, has shared her thoughts on turning 40, embracing her reality without regret.
Speaking on her YouTube show Toke Moments, she encouraged people to let go of past mistakes and focus on the present, according to a report by The Guardian.
“Regret is exhausting,” she said. “Make today the last day you dwell on what could have been. You did what you knew at the time. Now you know better, so do better. Move on.”
Toke Makinwa Speaks on Redefining Life’s Milestones
Having turned 40 in 2024, Makinwa reflected on the societal expectations placed on women regarding marriage and motherhood. Accepting her reality brought her a sense of peace.
“The hardest thing I could say to myself was, ‘I am 40, I am single, I am childless.’ I said it, and nothing happened. I did not die,” she stated.
Reaching this milestone initially felt overwhelming. Instead of measuring success by societal standards, said she has chosen to focus on achievements and personal growth.
“There are two ways to look at it. I could say, ‘I’m 40, I don’t have a husband, I don’t have a child, people have passed me.’ Or I could say, ‘I am 40, I have built a brand, I am a voice in Africa, I have family who love me, I am healthy, and I enjoy what I do.’ It’s all about perspective,” she said.
Letting Go of Expired Friendships
Reflecting on relationships, including her failed marriage, Makinwa acknowledged that not all friendships last forever. Growth sometimes requires leaving certain connections behind.
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“One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that some friendships expire, and that’s okay,” she said. “It doesn’t mean they are bad people. It doesn’t mean I’m a bad person.
“If I’m the villain in their story, that’s fine too. I no longer explain myself. When people ask about past friendships, I just say, ‘Whatever they told you is what happened.’”
She prioritizes moving forward and nurturing relationships that offer genuine support and encouragement over traditional family life with a husband and children.
